When Someone You Love Is an Alcoholic
Sadly, when someone struggles with addiction to alcohol, the addict isn’t the only person who is affected or suffering. Family and close friends are often touched by the illness in their own way, too. If you care about someone who is struggling with alcoholism it’s not only saddening but can be quite challenging. Especially when you want to help them, but have no idea where to begin or how to be effective once you try. Below are some ways you can offer help to a loved one who is struggling with alcohol addiction without allowing yourself to become hurt in the process.
Ways to Help A Loved One Struggling With Alcoholism
Establish Boundaries Take care not to enable the behavior you are concerned about. Speak with your loved one when they are sober, and tell them about your concerns in a loving way. Explain how their drinking is affecting you, and that you can’t be around them when they are under the influence. It’s important that once you do this, you hold to it. There is no need to be harsh or condescending, rather be firm and loving. Don’t Come to the Rescue Whether it’s getting arrested, needing a place to stay, or even money for alcohol, don’t bail your loved one out. Coming to the rescue each time trouble comes their way only encourages the behavior by helping them to avoid the real consequences to their actions. While not helping can be difficult when they fail, but you’re helping then to see a real need for change. Help Offer Solutions Sometimes even the alcoholic doesn’t know where to begin when it comes to recovery. Help your loved one find a detox facility where they feel comfortable going for help. Try not to get discouraged when doing so, either. For many addicts, recognizing and admitting they have a problem can be deeply embarrassing and accepting help can be difficult. While they may push you away outwardly, your words of encouragement and care, coupled with viable solutions, are often enough for them to investigate solutions privately later on. Attempting to help a loved one who is struggling with addiction can be a frustrating and painful experience, particularly so when you feel your concerns are not being validated. Sometimes it’s helpful to seek help for yourself, too. There are many resources and support groups available that can help you find courage and additional ways for managing the struggle. If you know of someone who struggles with an addiction to drugs and/or alcohol and would like more information on our detox treatment and facility, please contact us today.