Chances are you know someone who is struggling with drug and alcohol abuse. And in their life, they have a loved one standing in the way of recovery. It is called enabling, and although the enabler may have the best of intentions, they may not realize that they are doing more harm than good. Learn how to stop being an enabler and maybe save a life in the process.
Reduce or Remove Temptation
It is an unfortunate fact that even though families struggling with addiction want – more than anything – for their loved one to stop using drugs and alcohol; in most cases, they continue to enable the user by purchasing the substance. In fact, studies show that as much as 70 percent of persons engaging in substance abuse get their drugs and alcohol from friends and family. Another counter-productive example is when the house rules prohibit substance use in the house and yet they continuously move the boundaries and allow the behavior to continue. Allowing boundaries to be changed sends a message to the individual that their substance abuse is acceptable.
Let the Consequences Fall
Making excuses for drug and alcohol behavior – such as calling in sick for a loved one after a night of binge drinking and drugging – is the same as saying, “what you are doing is okay” when it really is not. Although it may seem that you are doing your friend or family member a favor by saving their job, you’re actually prolonging the inevitable. There are consequences for actions and sometimes the best thing you can do for a loved one is to let the consequences fall where they may. In the end, you may be saving their life. Studies show that when individuals hit “rock bottom” they are usually inspired to get help for their substance abuse issues.
Covering the Finances
It is no secret that drug and alcohol abuse or addiction will deplete a bank account in a hurry. Before long the individual resorts to selling possessions, or even borrowing or stealing money from loved ones. And depending on the circumstances, they’ll turn to criminal behavior in an attempt to get more drugs and alcohol. Constantly bailing a loved one out of debt because of their substance abuse is enabling them to continue the behavior. This is because they know that you will come to their rescue once more. Counselors say that to stop being an enabler you should take a “tough love” approach and stop paying for their substance abuse.
Stop Being an Enabler and Contact Gallus Detox Centers
Turning around enabling behavior is difficult and sometimes it may require counseling for the enabler. Rather than make decisions that revolve around the loved one with drug or alcohol addiction, start making different decisions. Join in activities that do not include the addicted person that will allow you to think about something else besides their substance abuse. Enabling is a form of control and relinquishing the control is a step toward recovery. Learn more about our treatment programs to help you or a loved one find recovery, such as:
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