Drug and alcohol addiction affects the lives of everyone around the addict. As the addict’s life begins to fall apart, those around them try to offer assistance. But, there is a thin line between helping and enabling and it too often leads to addiction and codependency. A codependent is someone in the addict’s life (the spouse, a child or other close relative) who will make unhealthy behavior choices. For example, they may be passive, controlling or act as a caregiver, in an effort to find acceptance with the substance user. The codependent person will sacrifice their own self-respect, needs and confidence for the other person.
Relationship Boundaries are Twisted
For the codependent, there is imbalance in the relationship. They will spend their time and efforts trying to monitor, manipulate and/or improve the feelings of the drug addict or alcoholic. Relationship boundaries are oftentimes twisted. For example, if the codependent is a child, the roles are quite literally reversed. In turn, the child takes on parenting responsibilities.
A Hindrance to Getting Help
For the person struggling with addiction and codependency, the codependent can interfere with the ability of the addict to get help. This is largely due to the fact the codependent may deliberately or unintentionally enable the addict’s behavior. Many codependents believe that they are somehow to blame for their loved ones drug and alcohol abuse. If they had been a better spouse/partner/child – then maybe they would not drink or use drugs. This belief is a form of enabling because it gives the addict an excuse for their behavior and in essence makes the codependent responsible for the addict’s behavior. It’s common for the codependent to begin using drugs and alcohol and to engage in the same activity. This results in further damaging the relationship and creates a block to recovery. As both parties take on addictive behaviors, they become dependent on each other for happiness and support. This adds to the dysfunction.
Encourage Rather Than Enable
The best thing you can do for someone struggling with addiction is encourage them to get help. Depending on the type of addiction, they may need to enter a medical detox facility to remove chemicals in their body. Once they have successfully completed the medical detox, most people enter a rehab treatment program. Through this they how to deal with their reasons for using and to stay off drugs and alcohol. In addition to rehab, most individuals in recovery participate in a community support program.
Recovering From Addiction and Codependency with Gallus Detox Centers
If you or a loved one are struggling with substance abuse and ready to get your life back, Gallus Detox Centers can help. Our IV therapy medical detox is the safest and most comfortable method for detoxing from alcohol and drugs. We will also help you plan for your continued recovery whether entering a rehab facility, a 12-step program, a non-12 step program or additional counseling. Call Gallus Medical Detox Centers today at 855-338-6929, to see if our specialized treatment is right for you.